The month of January is one filled with hope, renewal and the infamous resolutions. Here we are two days into the new year and let me ask you this – “Have you broken your resolution yet, Sis?” Right. Yeah, I know…
So, why do we do it to ourselves every year? Oh wait, have you failed so miserably at this resolution thing that you are adopting this popular motto: “I don’t make resolutions!” Yes, I know…I know…Why not, though? We have a new set of 12 months, 365 days and 8,760 hours to optimize.
Have you ever taken a moment to ask yourself why you fail so miserably during resolution season? Well, I have and I came up with these three reasons:
- I’m not being real with myself.
- My resolutions sound nice.
- I put little to no thought behind these resolutions.
It’s time for a change. In 2019 I am not stating resolutions. I am setting realistic, manageable and specific goals that can be achieved in this calendar year. These goals will also set me up to achieve the broader and more lofty resolution-like hoop dreams I hope to ultimately achieve. So, what’s this all about you ask?
Look, I am tired of setting myself up for failure. I am in a mental space where I am ready for change. The shift is real, honey! I cannot make this shift up!
Be Real with Myself
During the month of January, I will be focusing on embracing the woman I have been, am becoming and strive to be. I am going to love on myself something serious.
I will also be real with myself about what I am capable of in a single year. Negative self-talk will be limited. I just cannot walk around lying to myself about what I am going to do. That’s so silly.
Theme of the Month: JEM – Just Embracing Me
This is a play on words. Think precious gems. We are gems and I am just embracing my shimmery, high value, rare and healing self – you know…like a gem. This act of embracing will be all about affirming and appreciating who I am (and who I am not). This process will set me up beautifully as I work to craft those lovely and thoughtful goals.
Book of the Month: Becoming by Michelle Obama
Who doesn’t want to read what the best First Lady in the world has to say?
Song of the Month: Focus by H.E.R.
This song can be interpreted in so many ways that I just have to pay some respect to H.E.R. It’s just so appropriate for this month. Press play.
Set Goals – not resolutions
Resolutions are so broad and let’s be honest – wishful thinking in many instances. It’s time to set goals! These goals should be specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and time-sensitive (SMART). I must be able to check something off, honey!
This month is all about just embracing me.
Peace and Love.